Hey Goalfriends!

Where are all of my Insecure Fans! And if you are not a fan, still come along for the ride!

As a fan and a Mental Health Therapist, this season gave me all the vibes I've been looking for in a show. From touching on Tiffany's Post-Partum Depression, to Issa and Lawrence being able to have that HONEST yet NEEDED post break-up conversation, then watching Issa grow and improve her self-esteem, to wanting to smack Molly. Oops! Did I say that? LOL.

Honestly as a fan, Molly needed to get cut. But as a therapist, I loved how they portrayed her character this season. We often talk about being a breadwinner in a relationship, especially from the women's perspective, but not about being the breadwinner amongst your circle of friends. We always hear “well if they can't afford to go, cut them off!” or that it’s their fault, which is true in some situations. But someone's socioeconomic status should not qualify nor disqualify them from being your friend or associate.

Molly was exhausted because she allowed herself to be drained with always being the “go to.” She realized, I am always there for Issa emotionally and financially yet she can not be there for me nor herself. In order to get her to be an emotional support, she had to pay for the food... LITERALLY! ,Therefore, when Issa was picking up the tab and advocating for herself, Molly did not know how to receive it because she felt the "ride will be over soon,” since this was not Issa's usual role.

Do you and your friends have roles that seem one sided?

Molly assumed Issa should know to reciprocate in the relationship, but failed to establish clear boundaries to instruct her on how to do this.

What do I mean? I tell my clients all the time, It's never too late to redefine any relationship, but you must do the following:

We have to stop cutting people off before we CONFRONT them!

Yes, Confront, Assess, then Cut, if needed. These two have significant history and have a bond like no other. We must always remember relationships are WORK! Every last one of them. Molly appeared to fight harder for Andrew, but this is because she loved the idea of being in a committed relationship. She failed to understand both parties are responsible for the relationship and you can not ask one to meet your needs without meeting theirs as well.

So the question is....Do you need to evaluate some relationships?

Until next time...

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